Wednesday, April 19, 2006

4. Breaking Barriers Part 3: A Look Inside Lorelai:

The baggage that Lorelai’s brings to the relationship has been expressed several times in the series.

Episode 1.09

EMILY: She's gonna ruin everything just like you did.

LORELAI: No she's not! No she's not! No she's not! Rory is a good kid, Mom! She's not me.

Episode 2.02

LORELAI: And why is it that when your only daughter tells you that she is getting married, you can't muster up even a little enthusiasm? Even a little fake enthusiasm. Why don't you pretend that you care? I mean, this is the biggest thing to happen to me possibly for the rest of my life, and you dismissed it like I said, 'Hey, I'm thinking of getting a Honda, what do you think?'

EMILY: You're obviously hysterical!

LORELAI: Why don't you care? Why have you never cared? No matter what has happened to me my entire life, you've never been happy for me, and that hurts, Mom, it really hurts!

Episode 2.02
LORELAI: I don't know how to tell you things Mom. Um, I don't know if you've noticed this or not, but we don't communicate very well. When something good happens to me, I'm just afraid you're gonna make me feel bad about it. And when something bad happens to me, I'm always afraid you'll say 'I told you so.' I'm not sure if that's always fair, and I'm sure I share part of the blame for this circle we get into, but you think your words don't have any effect on me, but they do. And, I just didn't want to feel bad about this, so I waited. And I really didn't mean to hurt you.

Episode 2.14
LORELAI: Oh, so now this comes down to something I didn’t do? Don’t put that on me Mother!

Episode 1.09
EMILY: Well if I was so controlling why couldn't I control you running around getting pregnant and throwing our life away.
LORELAI: Get out!
EMILY: What?
LORELAI: You will not come into my house and tell me I threw my life away. Look around, Mom. This is a life. It has a little color in it so it may look a little unfamiliar to you, but it's a life.

Lorelai’s worst fear and worry is she feels her parents don’t accept her-they don’t accept her Stars Hollow life, her choices…and her assumptions that her parents will always point out her screw-ups just to remind her when she’s wrong masks her vulnerable fear that she’s not good enough, that she’s a disappointment for them (episode 1.10).


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